Self-Love, what is it and how do we act out self- love?
Self-love starts with self-awareness and is a necessity for our mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. The term for self-love in the Oxford Dictionary is “regard for one’s own wellbeing and happiness” It affects every aspect of our lives.
So how do we go from self- awareness to self- love!
To be self-aware means to know how we think, feel and behave. We may not always like what we know about ourselves, and that’s ok. Whatever we are aware of can be changed, if you’re not happy with how you act when in certain situations, change it, if your tired of negative thoughts dominating your day, change it, if your unhappy with how your physical body is then you can change it. We need to focus on the things we can control.
The words we think and speak are incredibly powerful, whether that is about ourselves, our family or life in general. Whatever we speak about magnifies regardless of it being positive or negative. The more you focus your thoughts and energy into a specific area of your life the greater it will be. An example would be loneliness, you could be surrounded by family, friends, co-workers and a thriving friendly community but if your focus is constantly geared towards how lonely you feel you won’t even see how many people are there for you because everything your doing is reflecting what you really want. Once you become aware of this and change your language and thoughts to include others and be open to giving and receiving friendship and kindness then you will see things change leading you to feel happy and content.
Make steps towards loving yourself by accepting where you are now, knowing that wherever you are today doesn’t have to be where you are the rest of the day, tomorrow or any time in the future. Look to the past to learn from mistakes and reflect on memories but never allow yourself to dwell there, use it constructively to grow from. Use the future for planning to develop yourself and improve your life. That doesn’t mean doing things you think you “should” be doing out of obligation; it means making small steps each and every day to improve upon where you are now. Tony Robbins would say “Raise your Standard 2mm” do this each day and the small simple step you make adds up to something significant over time, and remember that if you don’t quite achieve it today you always have tomorrow.
Let yourself get creative, try new hobbies, dance, play and make sure each day has something uplifting and fun so the stuff we have to do each day becomes less mundane.
Smile and Laugh, they say laughter is the best medicine and it is true, it can improve your immune system, reduce pain and increase overall happiness. There are plenty of funny things to watch via the internet or television as well as getting in touch with friends and family for a catch up.
Nature has many gifts to offer whether it be walking in the woods, by the river or on the beach. It brings a sense of appreciation for the beauty the earth has bestowed upon us to enjoy in its full glory either alone or with others whilst encouraging physical activity that many of us can do. The benefits of utilizing nature include reducing stress and inflammation, better sleep and improved energy levels and better concentration.
Finally being grateful and appreciating the small things in life leads to greater fulfilment in the bigger things in life, take time to be grateful and appreciate the flowers or plants in your garden or surrounding area, the birds singing in the morning, happy that they are here for another day, the smile shared by a passing stranger (when we no longer have to wear masks) or the taste of a freshly made cup of tea made by someone special.
All of the above ideas will help you to become self-aware, allowing you to discover more about yourself, leading to improving yourself each and every day and spreading kindness from within, that’s when you will discover and like who you are allowing you to begin loving yourself, once you love yourself unconditionally, loving and accepting others will be easy.
Written Tracy Burlaka - Healthy Hauliers ©
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